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Stories continue to witness the inside, and outside of Scripture, the messy, beautiful and complicated lived realities of people learning what it means to be in relationship with God - and recognising God's presence in others. Stories invite us in - telling us we are not alone – and indeed, you are not.

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Stories invite us to
be curious, open,
and discerning.

We already know the power of a story. Perhaps it's our story – maybe it's someone else's.

Stories don't just inform us – they move, disturb, liberate, and shape us - or they should! LGBTIQ+ faith stories are Spirit breathed invitations IN - Holy change makers.

Actually, “Out” no longer fits. LGBTIQ+ persons are courageously asking us ‘IN’, into an authentic wholeness and spirituality. Further into what it means to be a human and made in the image of God.

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Keep the narrative going.

"You either walk inside your story and own it, or you stand outside your story
and hustle for your worthiness."- Brenē Brown

Thank you for walking, owning, and sharing your stories.
For the courage and wholeheartedness of your journey
and the generosity and faith you offer.

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Daily devotionals

Daily devotions to deepend and expand LGBTIQA+ people of faith, their friends, family, and allies. Helping all to grow in understanding and faith on such topics as authenticity, coming out, relationships, chosen family, religious trauma, and more.

God is in our biology.
So, let's talk about sex-
X,Y, GENE, SRY, cells, and receptors.

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Friendly neighbourhood biologist here, @RebeccaRHelm.
I see a lot of people talking about biological sexes and gender right now.
Lots of folks make biological sex sex seem really simple.
Well, since it's so simple, let's find the biological roots, shall we?

Let's talk about sex... If you know a bit about biology you will probably say that biological sex is caused by chromosomes, XX and you're female, XY and you're male.
This is "chromosomal sex" but is it "biological sex"? Well...
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Turns out there is only ONE GENE on the Y chromosome that really matters to sex.
It’s called the SRY gene. During human embryonic development, the SRY protein turns on male-associated genes. Having an SRY gene makes you “genetically male”.
But is that “biological sex”?

Sometimes that SRY gene pops off the Y chromosome and over to an X chromosome. Surprise!
So now you’ve got an X with a SRY and a Y without an SRY. What does this mean?
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A Y with no SRY means physically you’re female, chromosomally you’re male (XY) and genetically you’re female (no SRY). An X with an SRY means you’re physically male, chromosomally female (XX) and genetically male (SRY). But biological sex is simple! There must be another answer…

Sex-related genes ultimately turn on hormones in specific areas on the body, and reception of those hormones by cells throughout the body. Is this the root of “biological sex”??
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“Hormonal male” means you produce ‘normal’ levels of male-associated hormones.
Except some percentage of females will have higher levels of ‘male’ hormones than some percentage of males. Ditto ‘female’ hormones. And…

…if you’re developing, your body may not produce enough hormones for your genetic sex.
Leading you to be genetically male or female, hormonally non-binary, and physically non-binary. Well, except cells have something to say about this…
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Maybe cells are the answer to “biological sex”?? Right??
Cells have receptors that “hear” the signal from sex hormones.
But sometimes those receptors don’t work.
Like a mobile-phone that’s on “do not disturb”. Call and cell, they will not answer.
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What does this all mean?
It means you may be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally male/female/non-binary, with cells that may or may not hear the male/female/non-binary call, and all this leading to a body that can be male/non-binary/female.
Try out some combinations for yourself. Notice how confusing it gets?
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Can you point to what the absolute cause of biological sex is?
Is it fair to judge people by it? Of course, you could try appealing to the numbers. “Most people are either male or female” you say. Except that as a biological professor I will tell you…

…that the reason I don’t have my students look at their own chromosome in class is because people could learn that their chromosomal sex doesn’t match their physical sex and learning that in the middle of a 10-point assignment is JUST NOT THE TIME
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Biological sex is complicated.
Before you discriminate against someone on the basis of “biological sex” & identity, ask yourself: Have you seen YOUR chromosomes? Do you know the genes of the people you love?
The hormones of the people you work with? The state of their cells?
Since the answer will obviously be no, please be kind, respect people’s right to tell you who they are, and remember that you don’t have all the answers.

Again: biology is complicated. Kindness and respect don’t have to be.
@RebeccaRHelm

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.
Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—
the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.
Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

― Brene Brown

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Listen, Learn, Love.

Got some time to listen rather than read?
Listening to other perspectives that may not have yet been considered,
equally challenges the congruency and bias of our belief systems.
There's a quickening in the mind, body, heart, and especially soul when
Holy truth bombs drop into our organised and comfortable theology.
Welcome that quickening. Embrace those Holy ‘aha’ moments.

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Lived Realities

Lived stories invites us to dip our toe, soak for a while,
or dive IN deep, listen, and discern well.

TAKATĀPUI

Māori who identify with diverse genders, sexualities and sex characteristics.

Aotearoa has its own unique and rich culture - esp. within the takatāpui space. Takatāpui is a traditional Māori term meaning ‘intimate companion of the same sex.’ It has been reclaimed to embrace all Māori who identify with diverse genders, sexualities and sex characteristics.

Equally, Aotearoa is the home to MVPFAFF (māhū, vakasalewalewa, palopa, fa'afafina, 'akava'ine, fakaleitī (leitī), fakafifine).
More Aotearoa resource links below.

A Blessing for you

Put your feet on the ground,
breathe deeply; in - out - repeat...

Jules Badger
1/6
Lord of all creation

We stand in awe of Your divine design
Each one of us
Utterly bespoke
Lovingly
Intentionally Fearfully and wondrously made
Rendered exactly as you imagined
Fashioned in full and glorious daylight
Jules Badger
2/6
Give us courage, Lord
To pull back the veil of darkness and despair
And raise in its place
Your banner of repair, colour and pride
And the fullness of joy in one another
Jules Badger
3/6
Help us, Lord
To never question or humiliate
But always to celebrate and illuminate
Jules Badger
4/6
Help us, Lord
To never isolate or exclude
But always embrace and include
Jules Badger
5/6
Compel us, Lord
To hold sacred space
For anyone bruised
Hurt by the Church
Misplaced or abused
May we be instead a Body
That together, shares, feels and heals
And offers sanctuary and true freedom
Jules Badger
6/6
Bless us, Lord
With hearts full of grace
And loving simplicity
That we may see
The beauty of your complexity
In every precious face
May it be so...
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