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Allied in God’s image.

Being an ally includes developing out attitudes, understandings, theology, and growth within our faith journey - so that LGBTIQA+ persons might know they matter to us; living in their full dignity made in God’s image.

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Allyship invites us
to be curious, open, and discerning.

Allies also deal with roadblocks, pushbacks and heartbreaks. We need to be aware that 'coming-out' as an Ally can upset some people. And this is why knowing our 'why' is so vital.

Being an Ally includes its own challenges that brings consequences. Allies have lost friends, leadership positions, jobs, peer support, community, family, and funding - it can break our hearts.

Equally, Allyship can be a HOLY invitation into knowing more of God's expansive heart - for everyone.

The journey.

There are levels of integration to being an Ally.
Awareness - Learning - Integration

Step 1 - Awareness

Sensing a tension.

We begin to sense a tension between what we are taught, what others are experiencing, and what we are discovering.

We are aware that discrimination against LGBTIQA+ people is happening and we are uncomfortable and curious.

As straight heterosexual, cisgender persons of faith, we are aware we have privilege.

We are aware LGBTIQA+ people can have a deep, authentic and active faith.

We are developing our 'why' through reading, listening, and engaging.
2: LEARNING

Knowing our 'why'.

We are building our skills and knowledge so we can have increasingly respectful and informed conversations.

We play our part in working towards ending systemic oppression against LGBTIQA+ communities – at work, church, society, and in our homes.

We are visible, approachable, and available as affirming Allies.

We volunteer and advocate.

We recognise our ongoing journey of unlearning and learning.

As Allies, we speak up when required, and/or invited, with kindness and courage.
3: Integration

Walking the talk.

We enable, encourage, model, and intergrate Allyship within our homes, neighbourhood, and faith communities.

We remember our journey with compassion and extend that same compassion to others starting their journey of Allyship.

We are affirming, inclusive, and desiring equity and flourishing for all - we play our part towards wholehearted change.

We remain aware and continue to listen, learn, pray, act, and integrate.
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Allyship. 'Ologies'. Offerings

Allies get to gather information from many 'ologies'; Theology, Anthropology, Sociology, Psychology, Biology... Below, and from within the other AlreadyEnough pages, is the collective offerings at your fingertips.

God is in our biology.
So, let's talk about sex-
X,Y, GENE, SRY, cells, and receptors.

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Friendly neighbourhood biologist here, @RebeccaRHelm.
I see a lot of people talking about biological sexes and gender right now.
Lots of folks make biological sex sex seem really simple.
Well, since it's so simple, let's find the biological roots, shall we?

Let's talk about sex... If you know a bit about biology you will probably say that biological sex is caused by chromosomes, XX and you're female, XY and you're male.
This is "chromosomal sex" but is it "biological sex"? Well...
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Turns out there is only ONE GENE on the Y chromosome that really matters to sex.
It’s called the SRY gene. During human embryonic development, the SRY protein turns on male-associated genes. Having an SRY gene makes you “genetically male”.
But is that “biological sex”?

Sometimes that SRY gene pops off the Y chromosome and over to an X chromosome. Surprise!
So now you’ve got an X with a SRY and a Y without an SRY. What does this mean?
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A Y with no SRY means physically you’re female, chromosomally you’re male (XY) and genetically you’re female (no SRY). An X with an SRY means you’re physically male, chromosomally female (XX) and genetically male (SRY). But biological sex is simple! There must be another answer…

Sex-related genes ultimately turn on hormones in specific areas on the body, and reception of those hormones by cells throughout the body. Is this the root of “biological sex”??
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“Hormonal male” means you produce ‘normal’ levels of male-associated hormones.
Except some percentage of females will have higher levels of ‘male’ hormones than some percentage of males. Ditto ‘female’ hormones. And…

…if you’re developing, your body may not produce enough hormones for your genetic sex.
Leading you to be genetically male or female, hormonally non-binary, and physically non-binary. Well, except cells have something to say about this…
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Maybe cells are the answer to “biological sex”?? Right??
Cells have receptors that “hear” the signal from sex hormones.
But sometimes those receptors don’t work.
Like a mobile-phone that’s on “do not disturb”. Call and cell, they will not answer.
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What does this all mean?
It means you may be genetically male or female, chromosomally male or female, hormonally male/female/non-binary, with cells that may or may not hear the male/female/non-binary call, and all this leading to a body that can be male/non-binary/female.
Try out some combinations for yourself. Notice how confusing it gets?
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Can you point to what the absolute cause of biological sex is?
Is it fair to judge people by it? Of course, you could try appealing to the numbers. “Most people are either male or female” you say. Except that as a biological professor I will tell you…

…that the reason I don’t have my students look at their own chromosome in class is because people could learn that their chromosomal sex doesn’t match their physical sex and learning that in the middle of a 10-point assignment is JUST NOT THE TIME
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Biological sex is complicated.
Before you discriminate against someone on the basis of “biological sex” & identity, ask yourself: Have you seen YOUR chromosomes? Do you know the genes of the people you love?
The hormones of the people you work with? The state of their cells?
Since the answer will obviously be no, please be kind, respect people’s right to tell you who they are, and remember that you don’t have all the answers.

Again: biology is complicated. Kindness and respect don’t have to be.
@RebeccaRHelm

Knowing our 'why' is vital.
As Allies, we too will deal with a few roadblocks, pushbacks and heartbreaks. Being an Ally can upset people.
Allies have lost friends, family, leadership, jobs, support, community, and funding- it can be heartbreaking.
However, becoming an Ally can also be a HOLY invitation into rediscovering the expansiveness of a creative God.
So, knowing our 'why' is vital.

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A Blessing for you

Put your feet on the ground,
breathe deeply; in - out - repeat...

Amanda Pilbrow
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Holy whisper of Wisdom, Grace, and Justice
thank you for being ever-present.
Speak. Stir. Invite. Shake. Shift. Hold. Move.
Clean our ears to listen,
Embolden our hearts to brevity and openness,
Wipe dirt from our eyes,
seeing you in all people
we have been told you are not.
2/10
Amanda Pilbrow
Lift our heads cupped gently in Wisdom,
towards unlearning – and relearning
May we grow in you
never-ending
3/10
Amanda Pilbrow
Have mercy on us,
(breathing in)
(breathing out).
Break into our silence
disrupt complacent ignorance
refuse our urge to regurgitate harmful theology,
beliefs that keep people out –
and others in.
4/10
Amanda Pilbrow
Rattle us to search and question
as acts of faith  
inviting us, compelling us
to seek authentic inclusion.
Being included authentically
in your radical embrace, also
5/10
Amanda Pilbrow
God – us - created in your image, your essence
our souls always belonging to you.
6/10
Amanda Pilbrow
Thank you for the messy and fabulous gift of humanity
for your original blessing of being.
Loving us deeply, furiously, without reservation
never letting go.
7/10
Amanda Pilbrow
May we know our humanity as a blessing
inviting us into community with you.
8/10
Amanda Pilbrow
Holy Spirit, Wisdom, Sophia
get us off the runway
allow us to fly
in the direction your breath flows
and land where your Holy encounters lead.
9/10
Amanda Pilbrow
Thank you for this ridiculous grace
Humanity infused with divinity
loving us as we are
Full stop.
10/10
Amanda Pilbrow
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